I uploaded some files again and i can now reach the control panel yet i cannot do much from thier i can access a select few (e.g. the server info) but it still has the login problem if i try to set setting or something.
Same happens with me, I can access every function in your admin panel. Must be something with your browser, maybe check cookies settings, I don't know, maybe override automatic cookie handling and see if it makes a change.
Not sure this will help you but when my forum was on Brinkster's I had my other admin that experienced that problem. He could not get to the admin options even though he could log on. He could not vote on any polls as well. Said he had to vote before viewing the results and he was clicking vote. The problem went away when I applied all the bug fixes. Not sure if they were related or not. So make sure you apply the fixes.
Ok well now i know its a problem with AOL. Other people have tried it with AOL and can't do it yet i can do it with normal ISP's. I'm going to conntac aOL.