thanks for the info I downloaded that Araneae, so now I'm set there I just don't know much about how or what I'm doing kinda learning as I go but I appreciate all your suggestions and help and will probably be asking more stupid noob questions just bare with me tho.
There's no such thing as stupid questions, we were all learning at some stage - indeed, I think you'll find we all still are - just make sure you familiarise yourself with the search here; you'll probably find a few of your questions have already been asked and answered
Welcome to the wonderful world of Snitz, by the way
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for comparison I have been using beyondcompare from http://www.scootersoftware.com which is great but not free and allows you to compare local files with remote files over ftp.